Sep 23, 2013

How to Get Happy when You're Sad

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I m a person who switches to either of my extreme moods without specific reasons,that is a little thing can make me burst into a laugh,a song might be enough to feel me better.So as I get into extreme sadness for little things,even an empty room can make me feel down.So I find it difficult to cope up with my strange moods :)

So I found some tips to shift your moods,to feel better :) So just wanna share it with you,so that it might help you :)

See the original Post here http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Happy-when-You%27re-Sad

(1) Call up a friend to talk about why you're feeling sad. Do this to get something off your chest, or to get your mind off it. The simple act of talking can make a surprising difference if it's with the right person.

(2) Watch a funny movie, preferably one that you've already seen and liked. You'll remember that time that you were happy watching it, and the familiarity will feel comforting.

(3) Eat a good meal. Make something different and delicious, something out of the ordinary. Chew slowly, smell the food, and savor every last bite. Be thankful that you even have food to eat. According to one source, about 25,000 people will die on any given day due to hunger or related illness.

(4) Exercise. Go for a walk, a jog, or a bike ride. Play a team sport. Do anything that gets you up and sweating. Exercising will make your body release endorphins, a chemical that lifts your mood and lessens your feeling of pain

(5) Be spontaneous. Sometimes a consistent and boring routine can make you feel bad. Do something out of the blue without making any rash decisions. Go visit a friend or a museum, surprise your Mom with lunch, or take a weekend trip outside your city or town.

(6) Paint a picture or mold a sculpture. Express your feelings with color and shapes. Art is a celebration of life, and you are a reason to celebrate.

(7) Think about good memories. If you've lived through them once, you can definitely have them again. That's the beautiful thing about memories. Just because things may seem bad right now doesn't mean that they'll be that way tomorrow.

(8) Take a shower or a bath. You'll be amazed at how much of a lift taking a shower can give you.
If you're feeling in the mood for a bath, try putting some Epsom salts in the bath. Epsom salts are reputed to trigger the release of endorphins, those magical chemicals that are responsible for feelings of well-being

(9) Get out of the house. The fresh air will be invigorating. Go somewhere with a friend, a family member, or even by yourself. See a movie, shop, go on a picnic, etc. Staying inside can feel like trapping yourself inside the prison of your depression. Don't give yourself an excuse to feel bad.

(10) Listen to music. Resist the temptation to go for the sad music; try listening to energetic, jumpy, soulful, or happy tunes, along with numbers that inspire you or remind you of good times. Music can be and is used as a very effective therapy.

(11) Have a good cry. Sometimes the sadness stays no matter how hard you force yourself to be happy. Try to let the tears out when you feel like it, and you might feel more relieved of your sad feelings, as if you got them "off your chest". Studies suggest that a majority of people who cry feel better than they did before.

(12) Put your feelings into perspective. Is what you're upset about really as important as you think? Did it seem to heavily affect you than those around you? If you sulk about little problems, like not receiving a perfect grade or spilled milk, then you're going to feel sad a lot more easily.
Remind yourself of how lucky you are. There's always someone out there who isn't as lucky as you. Feel grateful for what you do have, especially simple things like family, friends, or your health.

(13) Taking a nap might make you feel better. Taking a nice, restful nap can help you feel more creative, get better grades, and relieve more stress, scientists say.

(14) Journal. Each day is a new day, a day to celebrate in writing. Write about how you feel, what your goals are, or even simple musings that you have. The good thing about journals is that they don't have to be read by anyone else.

(15) Make a list of 100 things that make you happy. It's a challenge, but see if you can do it. Don't think, don't worry about if it's childish or silly, just write it down.

(16) Before you go to bed, completely clear your mind of everything. This includes school life, grades, friends, family, etc. Dream up your happy place. This will at least leave you falling asleep with a better mood, making your feelings brighter in the morning.

(17) Take a long walk to calm you down and to relax. Sometimes, it gives you a soothing feeling. Take a deep breath and puff it out. Focus on your breathing while you walk.

(18) Try relaxing by reading. Lose yourself in another world, or in the past. Books transport us to places we've never been; often, those places are more adventurous and romantic than the places we're currently in.

(19) Laugh and smile. It may be forced at first, but it could trigger a funny memory or cause a real laugh itself. Scientists have figured out that smiling actually makes you happier than you were before.

(20) Look at some of your childhood pictures. If a funny one pops up, don't push it away. Savor it. It'll help remind you that life passes by so quickly sometimes. Ask your parents for childhood pictures if you want a lot of them!

(21) Stick to your routines. Probably you don't feel like doing it but force yourself to do it. You will eventually feel normal, if normal was a feeling you liked. Even if you have lost something/someone, you still have many other things/people that you enjoy. Most of all, you always have yourself.

Sep 22, 2013

ചാറ്റ് ന്മാരുടെ ശ്രദ്ധയ്ക്ക്‌

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കഴിഞ്ഞ ദിവസം ഞാൻ ഒരു പോസ്റ്റ്‌ വായിക്കാൻ ഇടയായി,അതിൽ പറഞ്ഞിരിക്കുന്നത്  ജീവിതം വിരസതയിലാതെ മുന്നോട്ടു കൊണ്ട് പോകാനുള്ള ഏതാനും വഴികളാണ് .ആഴ്ചയിൽ ഒരു പുതിയ പുസ്തകം എങ്കിലും വായിക്കാൻ ശ്രമിക്കുക എന്നതാണ്  ഒരു നിർദേശം .പിന്നെ മറ്റൊന്ന് ഇടയ്ക്കു ഇടയ്ക്കു പുതിയ ഹോബികൾ  കണ്ടെത്താൻ ശ്രമികുക എന്ന്. മറ്റൊരു കാര്യം പുതിയ ഭാഷകൾ പഠിക്കാൻ ശ്രമിക്കുക എന്നതാണ് .ഓരോ ഭാഷ പഠിക്കുക എന്നത് ഓരോ സംസക്കാരങ്ങൾ അറിയുക കൂടിയാണലോ .പക്ഷെ എന്റെ ശ്രദ്ധ ആകർഷിച്ചതു മറ്റൊരു പ്രധാന നിർദേശമായിരുന്നു,കഴിവതും ചാറ്റ് കൾ കുറയ്ക്കുക എന്നതായിരുന്നു . ആലോചിച്ചപ്പോൾ അത് ശരിയാണെന് തോന്നി പോയി .ഒരു തരത്തിൽ നമ്മുടെ ഏറ്റവും ഉപകാര പ്രദമായി  വിനിയോഗിക്കാൻ പറ്റിയ നല്ല സമയങ്ങൾ വെറുതെ പാഴാക്കുന്നതിൽ പ്രധാന വില്ലൻ ഈ ചാറ്റ്  തന്നെയാണ് .അതിൽ പറയുന്ന പോലെ ഒരു പാട് സമയം വെറുതെ ഉള്ളപ്പോൾ മാത്രം അൽപ നേരം ചാറ്റ് ഉപയോഗിക്കാൻ ആണ്. വിരസത ഒഴിവാക്കാൻ മിക്കവാറും ഞാനും ചാറ്റ് നെ  ഒരുപാടു ആശ്രയിക്കാറുണ്ട് .പക്ഷെ ഇപ്പോൾ തിരിച്ചു ചിന്തിക്കാൻ തോന്നി പോകുന്നു .

Sep 13, 2013

10 Conflict Resolution Tips

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 [Courtesy :Forwarded Emails]


One of the most common and frustrating impediments to worker productivity is conflict between employees. Unresolved conflict can strain relationships, create tension and negativity, and dampen morale. Whether engaged in a heated debate, a disagreement, or an outright feud, take a strategic approach to resolving the problem. You’ll be most effective if you avoid making these common mistakes. 

1. Don’t make assumptions about the situation or the other person’s perceptions, motivations, or reactions. You’ll get a much clearer and more accurate picture by asking the other person directly.

2. Don’t take it personally – it rarely is!

3. Don’t look for blame. Instead, try to identify cause.

4. Don’t avoid the problem. It’ll only get worse, breed resentment, and resurface at a later date. You’ve simply got to deal directly with the issue at hand.

5. Don’t attack the other person’s character. That’s just playing dirty. It will not help you work things out and it will almost certainly have a lasting, negative impact.

6. Don’t gossip about the problem or about the other person involved. It’s unprofessional and will only make matters worse.

7. Don’t bring it up in public. This is a private matter to be resolved between you and the other party.

8. Don’t bring it up when there’s not enough time to address it. Instead, leave adequate time for a thorough discussion – or introduce the issue and schedule a time to resume talks in the immediate future.

9. Don’t bring it up when you’re angry, stressed, or feeling ill.That’s a disservice to you and the other person involved. Wait until you’re calm.

10. Don’t address the situation in an email. Email leaves far too much room for misinterpretation. While we’re on the subject, don’t copy others on a personal matter. This will almost certainly make the other party feel defensive, angry, or humiliated. It won’t, however, help resolve the problem.


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